Anxiety may present itself in different ways but with the same emotional state: the feeling of threat and danger attached to the feeling of helplessness and vulnerability.
The threat that I’m talking about can come in the very normal cases; from habitual problems in our life such as fear of infidelity or breakup, not being able to pass an exam, not able to do a job, not getting the acceptance or social approval, etc.
Either the anxiety for own problems of living or psychological disorders, in both cases, is accompanied by the experience of an inability to control or face the threat. In medical cases, the feeling of helplessness and vulnerability is much more intense.
If you are currently experiencing anxiety, you should read the following keys to be able to face it and overcome it. If you want to have some type of treatment, you can consult with your psychologist or therapist.
Below are the few key concepts using which you can easily overcome your stress and anxiety:
Key Method 1: Never Have Negative Thoughts
Negative thoughts can be very varied, but usually pick up the main (central) fear of the person: “I’m sure they are gonna suspend me”, “The plane is going to have a breakdown and it’s going to crash”, “I’m gonna get a heart attack”, ” My son has had an accident “, ” If I do not give the switch a great misfortune will happen”, ” I’m sure I’m left with a blank mind and I make the most terrible ridicule”.
The insistent thinking of something negative generates the activation of the alarm system of the organisms, for example, the heart beats faster preparing the response of confrontation or flight. This generates sensations in the organism that in turn generate new negative thoughts of the type “I feel very bad”, “it is giving me something very bad”, “I can not bear it”.
Therefore, it is essential to learn to change negative thoughts. This objective is usually one of the most important in the work of psychologists, not only for the treatment of anxiety but for any other type of emotional disorder.
Key Method 2: Learn Not to See Your Problems as a Problem
Psychologists call primary anxiety is the one which is caused by the problems of life, such as work, the couple or children, the economy, health, etc… but when a person’s fear is directed towards their own anxiety, he gets the secondary anxiety.
That is, a person is afraid of experiencing fear or anxiety.
And of course, secondary anxiety is about avoiding everything that causes anxiety. In the case of panic attacks, physical sensations that are associated with serious diseases, such as noticing the heartbeat, are avoided in the case of social phobia, social situations that generate anxiety are avoided, in the case of obsessive disorders, negative thoughts that generate anxiety are avoided, in agoraphobia, the street or closed places with difficult exit, etc.
Well, it is something well known to psychologists how fighting anxiety or avoiding the situations that cause it generates more anxiety. The person with anxiety tries not to perceive in his body the anxiogenic sensations and not to go to places where the anxiety can be triggered.
Therefore, the ability to overcome anxiety paradoxically requires an attitude of acceptance, of “surrender” and does not fight against the manifestations of anxiety. It is convenient that one dares to feel the manifestations of anxiety in the body fully, paying attention and not judging the symptoms of anxiety as good or bad, they are simply sensations to which we have to get used to again.
Key 3: Face Your Fears
Even if you change your thoughts and get a good level of acceptance of the feelings of anxiety, you will not be able to overcome the anxiety until you face everything that scares you and can overcome it.
If you are afraid of the relationship with people, you will have to expose yourself, even gradually, to social situations. If you are afraid of touching things that can contaminate you, you will have to do it. If your fear has to do with being in closed situations, you will have to gradually expose until your level of anxiety decreases in these situations.
If your fears have to do with unreal situations such as an accident happening to a loved one, you will have to imagine it repeatedly until this fear diminishes.
Psychologists are accustomed to prepare a scale of situations from lower to higher anxiety to generate gradual training in overcoming fear. For example, if your fear is of the agoraphobic type and you are afraid to just go out on the street for fear that you have an anxiety crisis and do not have anyone to help you, a list is drawn up starting with the situation that gives you least fear. Because, for example, go out to the street door, continue distancing me a few meters, reach the corner, go around the block, walk 3 minutes distancing me from the house, 5 minutes, etc.
Learning to change thoughts is a skill that goes far beyond overcoming anxiety.
Not falling into negative thoughts, worries or pessimism implies an important change of attitude that entails the improvement of spirit and motivation for all to address the different vital objectives we all have.